Do you believe in different kinds of love?

Do you believe there are different kinds of love for your spouse and friends?

Is the love you give to your wife or husband EXACTLY the same as the kind of love you give to your friends and to strangers?

It should be EXACTLY the same. There is only the love of God. There are not different kinds of love.

This is Lesson 127 in A Course in Miracles: There is no love but God’s.

“Perhaps you think that different kinds of love are possible. Perhaps you think there is a kind of love for this, a kind of love for that, a way of loving one, another way of loving still another. LOVE IS ONE. Love’s meaning is obscure to anyone who thinks that love can change. He does not see that changing love must be impossible. And thus he thinks he can love at times, and hate at other times. He also thinks that love can be bestowed on one, and yet remain itself although it is withheld from others. To believe these things of love is not to understand it.” – Lesson 127

If you are experiencing difficulty in your life, chances are, SPECIALNESS is the cause of it.

If you allowed everything and everyone to be EXACTLY THE SAME – and had only one response to everyone and everything – THE PERFECT LOVE OF GOD – you would have no problems. You would treat everyone with kindness, respect, appreciation and love and because cause and effect are not separate, everyone would treat you with kindness, respect, appreciation and love.

ONE LOVE.

Amazing, huh?

I was married for 7 years and it fell apart because I treated my husband differently than I treated other people. I thought I loved him “more” than others. I put him above everyone else. I gave more of my time and attention to him than I gave other people. I put him first in everything I did. I even put him before God. I thought that was what one was supposed to do in marriage. In the process, I changed. I became quieter, more withdrawn, less enthusiastic, and more like “my idea” of what I thought a wife was supposed to be like – supportive, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health.

A Course in Miracles calls “special love” a “slaughterhouse”. It is a kind of love where you see a body, and then believe that it is real and that that person/body can offer you peace or safety. At this point, if you believe all this is true, you’re trapped in the illusions – a prisoner in a prison-house – and you will believe in all the laws of the world. This is where things get totally insane & crazy.

After a certain time with this body, you will begin to see the cracks in the relationship and you will start to believe that a different body can offer you what you really want. Then you start substituting, looking for the perfect person/body to fulfill your needs and make you happy.

At this point, you’re so far off-course, you have no idea what you are doing.

I’m talking about myself here, of course. When I say “you” I mean “me”. I had no idea what I was doing.

It has taken me 8 months on my own alone, with the Holy Spirit’s help, and major amounts of forgiveness, to see how I specialized love. I don’t want to do that anymore. I want to love equally now, and to put God first in everything that I do.

These past months have been the best of my life because I AM MYSELF again  – all my passion, joy and enthusiasm is back. I feel like a child again in many ways, free and spontaneous.

It great to finally locate the SOURCE of my happiness. It doesn’t come from other people. It comes from God. It comes from me.

I want to use my body ONLY as a means of communication for God’s Love.

That feels so good to say that, and to really mean it!!

A Course in Miracles says:

“Hear him gladly, and learn of Him t hat you have need of no special relationships at all. You but seek in them what you have THROWN AWAY”

To read the whole section, click here:

The Holy Instant and Real Relationships, Chapter 15, Section 9

RELATE ONLY WITH WHAT WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU.

“Every special relationship that YOU have made IS a substitute for God’s Will”

That just blows my mind. It says LOVE IS FREEDOM.

I love that. That’s exactly what I am learning. Everything I need and want is contained within me because there is nothing outside of me. THERE IS ONLY GOD WHICH IS WHAT I AM, WHICH IS WHAT YOU ARE.

I love you.